lie

"a man who will not lie to a woman has very little consideration for her feelings"

olin miller

well a friend of mine has taken this quote quite seriously....

convenient-----marriage or divorce?

why do two people come together to live a life? to be happy? or they are scared of loneliness??? well...i dont know.

But is strange as I see some people completely not made for each other. And its so visible but it takes them so much time to realise that.

But is it fair that one realises it earlier... figures is/her life...puts everything in place. gets over the relation. gets ready to move on and almost figures it all. where to go, what to do etc etc etc...and then by the way informs the spouse before doing so.

Does not give a reason also?? so the person has to keep guessing what went wrong, what she/he did wrong? could it be fixed? but are there any answers?? and not after 6 months of marriage .. but after years of marriage.

why do people do that?? does it give them great sadistic pleasure or does it scare them to tell their partner. the one whom they loved and slept on the same bed with?? or is that convenience too???

Happy moving

A few months back I had written about moving on. By moving on I mean jobs.
When I moved to my current job, I had a lot of hope. Hope that things would become better. I guess thats because I am quite an optimistic person. Well thank god, because I have discovered a place that I like.

I always wondered what it would feel like shooting with all these big stars---film stars, sports people etc. And I thought it would be so great being face to face with these people. And now within six months I don't think I have that longing to shoot with some celebrity anymore. I just feel its like a job for me like its a job for them. They are all normal people like us. They get tired, they work hard.

Once upon a time the dream was to meet these people and may be shake hands or mumble a quick 'autograph please'. But who thought that you will tell shahrukh or amitabh to turn right, look into camera ( not so much) and smile ( little more) hands on hips and he would happily do it?????

Well may be we should think. It might just happen.....who knows.

quiet no-where

25th jan '08

ever heard of place which nowhere. thats what i shall call shaheen bagh... a quiet little place hidden between some clouds and trees and one or two mountains. and what do u do no-where?? ......obviously nothing.

Think Different. So now?

What do you do when two ideologies clash with those of someone you love and whose takes on life you've come to respect over a period of time?

Do u care?

What if you do?

Do you give in?

And then become bitter inside?

Do you take a diplomatic stand?

Do you stick to what you believe?
But at the risk of such a beautiful relationship getting bitter because of your obstinacy?

Even as I write this, I know what I would do.

There are some ground rules by which I live my life. And I can never change them... Come what may.

But then that’s about me? Not you. Is it?

Thank You

Moving is something we do often. By Moving I mean changing jobs.

I used to more than often said my friends. Then one day I decided that I wont move that often. I had joined Lowe.


Three years in one place was unimaginable for me. But today as I look back, I must say were very enjoyable and definitely the best working years for me. Why? do I say that?

Because It taught me a lot. I met people who inspired me. Workoholics. I want to be like them when I grow up I thought.
I met friends. One big fat-ass whom I very fond of. A girl who became my partner. And many more.

But what I really learnt was to tolerance. To tolerate people I hated. I despised.

Imagine going to office and seeing the most depressing face in the world.
I would have run away. But no. I stood there firm and said to myself, this is an art I have to learn. There will be such people in my life. They live. Why... well I dont know. They exist. Why? I again have no answer. But yes it's a challenge to see them everyday and still focus on what you are and what you want to achieve.

I am thankful to the most depressing person in my life. He taught me a lot. He taught me what I should never be. What I should never do. He taught me endurance.

What he taught me was to look past people. Believe that they dont exist. To close eyes and yet keep them open.
Wow. that's a lot. But I wonder why don't they teach this in school. Would have been much more easy wouldnt it?
But nonetheless it's still a learning and Thank You. O depressing face!

Why?

A small girl came to my house today.

She was all of four.

As she saw me without any remorse she said," Why you so fat?"

I looked at her amazed.

But why? It was such a simple question.

I mumbled an answer and thought why aren't we so simple when we grow up.

Why are we taught
to fake our emotions. Hide our feelings, questions, anger?

And then I looked at her parents who almost looked embarrassed
and I knew the answer to my why.